BOUNDARIES
By James Robinson (c) 2007
Boundaries are energetic patterns that channel and focus our experience in life. Boundaries are the chosen limits and contain-ment fields of our life. We can choose them consciously or unconsciously. Oftentimes, boundaries are simply those places in our lives where we say “no”. Some boundaries are where we say “yes”, as in allowing ourselves to receive love and wealth in our lives. Where we draw boundaries, and who we draw our boundaries with define our experience on this planet. There are boundaries in each of our subtle bodies, physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. It is important that we have clear boundaries 360 degrees around each of the bodies, or we will leak energy and prosperity wherever we go.
Boundaries come in all different sizes, thicknesses, porosity, malleability, clarity and opaqueness. They can be as physical as clothing or as ethereal as faith. Boundaries often define who we are and what kind of personality we have. The presence or absence of boundaries also creates our own reality. Everyone can subconsciously read each other’s boundaries. Many times we wonder why someone can push our buttons so well, and it is because those people subconsciously know the weak spots in our boundaries. On a soul level, it is a service to show us where we need to firm up and clarify our boundaries.
Challenges and lessons always come to show us where we have no boundaries or our boundaries are weak. Without properly drawn boundaries, people can become enmeshed with everyone they encounter and lose themselves repeatedly. This constant loss of self may create dis-ease in the emotional and mental bodies which leads to dis-ease in their physical bodies. People without boundaries are also prone to poverty, low self-esteem, lack of self-respect, chronic disease and confusion. Establishing appropriate boundaries would increase their sense of self, helping them to define healthy behavior and making better life choices.
The process is to look at the boundary and decide where your boundary is. You have to be as clear and precise as possible. It is not enough to have a boundary about sex as “not on the first date”. What about the second date, or the third? A more appropriate boundary might be “I will not have sex with someone I do not wish to mate”. If you do not have an appropriate boundary about sex, then do not be surprised if you have children or contract a sexually transmitted disease.
People may have grown up in families were boundaries were not allowed. Overbearing and abuse parents, no matter how well meaning, strip away any boundaries of their children which leave these beings subject to loss of self-esteem and lack of identity. How many people were told “don’t say ‘no’ to me!” The result is lack of boundaries.
There are many different aspects of our life that require healthy boundaries to ensure healthy self-image, sense of value, confidence, goal-setting and achievement, healthy relationships with ourselves and others. It is necessary for some thought to be given in all of the areas, to anticipate your response should a circumstance arise that requires a healthy boundary. The following is a list of boundaries that I use with my clients to help them discovery whether their boundaries are healthy or need creation or modification. You will notice that some of these boundaries are similar for several subtle bodies. Some circumstances affect some or all of our subtle bodies, and a healthy boundary will improve and energize more than one subtle body.